I AM GLAD I HAVE COME

This morning, 22nd December, 2011 at 10 to 11.30 A.M. at Segi College, Room 209, i have attended a very informative and interesting personality talk entitled Unconditional Acceptance.  Initially, I was reluctant to come, because I was thinking to do some reviewing this morning because tomorrow, 23rd December, 2011, Friday, I will be sitting for Mid-Semester Examination for Behavioural Science III.  Any, I came. 

I am so glad and thankful I have made the decision to come for the talk.

The talk:       "UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE"

Translated to Bahasa Malaysia, as "PENERIMAAN TANPA SYARAT"

This is really a 'roadmap to happiness'.  If only we make an effort to unconditionally accept everyone around us as he or she is, this is really something that will make one a very happy person.

We must know that we human is not perfect.  Just have a look at ourself.  Our parents, our spouses, our lecturers, our friends, our classmates, our room mates, our children, or anyone that we know, they are just not perfect.  But, everyone is UNIQUE!  Try to accept everyone without passing judgement or putting high expectations because expectations are set up just to disappoint you.

When we talk about people around us, we must also talk about their personality.  What is personality?
Personality is particularly a combination of emotional, attitudinal, and behavioural responses patterns of an individuals.

The personality test that we have gone through during the talk:

Temperament Test
For each word on the test below, place a number that best describe you. 5 being the highest and 1 being the lowest.

Choleric                                  Phlegmatic                         Melancholy                 

1. Optimistic                      Very quiet                          Deep Feeling                               
2. Goal-oriented                Pessimistic                         Sensitive                     
3. Self-confident                Introvert                            Self-centered              
4. Activist                          Not agressive                    Easily offended           
5. Domineering                   Indecisive                         Faithful Friend            
6. Agressive                       Slow and lazy                   Self-sacrificing            
7. Leadership Ability          Easy Going                       Introspective               
8. Sarcastic                        Calm and cool                  Suspicious                 
9. Outgoing                        Efficient                           Introvert                      
10. Strong-willed                 Dependable                      Perfectionist               
11. Hot tempered                Witty and dry humor         Resentment                
12. Insensitive                     Tease                                Creative                     
13. Unsympathetic              Selfish                                Moody                     
14. Determined                   Orderly Habits                   Critical                    
15. Decisive                        Stingy                                Indecisive                
16. Self-sufficient                Stubborn                           Pessimistic                
17. Practical                       Spectator in life                  Idealistic                  
18. --                                             Works well under presure   --                            

Sanguine:

1. Emotional
2.  Difficulty Keeping Resolution
3. Compassionate
4. Impractical
5. Easily Discourages
6. Undisciplined
7. Weak-willed
8. Talkative
9. Enjoyable
10. Friendly
11. Restless
12. Difficulty concentrating
13. Lives in Present
14. Egotistical
15. Impulsive
16. Difficulty with appointment
17. Optimistic
18. Outgoing

The scores are tabulated and the highest score for each of the temperament above is likely to show your most prominent personality.
Four Major Types of Personality:

     Humor                                                  Character
*CHOLERIC                                             Strong

*PHLEGMATIC                                        Peaceful
                         
*MELANCHOLIC                                    Sensitive

*SANGUINE                                            Sociable

Choleric:

• Ambitious and leader-like.
• Faithful, brave and have the freedom to be on one's own.
• Have a lot of aggression, energy and passion.
• Strong-willed, assertive, goal-oriented and well organized.
• Like to be in charge of everything.
• Do not really need friends.

Phlegmatic:

• Relaxed, quiet and patient
• Accepting and affectionate
• Receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change
• Good listener and always happy with their life
• Always be the mediator  and easy to get along with
• Qualities that make them good administrator

Melancholic:

• Introvert and thoughtful
• Very (or overly) pondering and considerate
• Highly creative in creative writing such as poetry and art
• Perfectionist, so they love details
• Self-reliant and independent
• Get so involved in what they are doing until they forget to think of others.
• Looking for ideal mate.

Sanguine: 

• Impulsive and pleasure seeking
• Sociable and emotional
• Quite creative and often daydream
• Sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful
• Struggle with following tasks all the way through
• Tend to be forgetful
• Love to be children forever

How to accept others?

• Their behaviour is not conscious

-The majority of people never stop to question why they do what they do; they just run the program mindlessly.

• They are just trying to meet their own needs

-You are doing exactly the same thing, just in a different way.

• Walk away

-Allow someone to do as they choose, just choose not to be a part of it.

• Take a look at yourself

-Open yourself up to the possibility that you might be wrong.

LIVING IN A GRATEFUL WORLD
Be grateful to those who hurt or harmed you,  For they have reinforced your determination,
Be grateful to those who have deceived you, For they have deepened your insight,
Be grateful to those who have hit you, For they have reduced your karmic obstacles,
Be grateful for those who have abandoned you,  For they have taught you to be independent,
Be grateful to those who have made you stumble, For they have strengthened your ability,
Be grateful to those who have denounced you, For they have increased your wisdom and concentration,


Conclusion:
*  A person is and has the right to be who they are.
* Accepting others for who they are is the greatest gift we can give to those in our lives.  It is also the greatest gift we can give to our friends.

Open your heart to accept anyone today without judgement.  It's all your choice to be happy and to make your life colourful with people or friends around you.  Just remember that, no one is perfect but everyone is unique!

I am glad I have come to this talk..